2016 was weird & 2017 Goals

What a weirdly interesting year 2016 turned out to be. 

I’m not going to say that it was terrible, but overall it wasn’t. But there were a lot of terrible celebrity deaths. (CARRIE FISHER?! ugh) There were some terrible dates. There were some terrible situations. There were some terrible people. My dog died. My biological father died. My chickens got killed. My heart was broken. My life, at times, felt like it was over. 




My family grew. My fondness of makeup grew. There were some good dates. I met fun new people. I learned to be okay by myself. My faith grew. My happiness grew abundantly. My life went on. We got a new puppy. We have chickens. I pretty much have everything I want and the ability to get whatever else I want at a whim. 

So while my blog definitely took the back burner… My life didn’t collapse. In fact, it continued in a whirlwind of crazy. It only is starting to feel like things are calming down. I’m sure you’ve all noticed even a lack of my instagram posts – and we all know how much I love and adore instagram – It’s been so crazy that I haven’t even WANTED to post things on Instagram. But, I have goals. I have plans. I have things I want to write about. So, here I am. I am going to write my 2017 goals down and hopefully I’ll keep to them better than my last year’s goals. 😉 



  • Blog More 
    • I’m not going to put a set amount on this because we all know that I won’t be able to keep it. If it were up to me, I’d post daily and not do anything else but unfortunately, life gets in the way of those sorts of goals. So, I’m going to post MORE … I’m just not sure how much more. 
  • Be Braver 
    • I am almost 30 years old. I just barely, a couple of weeks ago, went to a movie alone for the first time in my entire life. I’m afraid to do things by myself. Not because I’m afraid of being alone.. I’m afraid of what people think. I want to be braver. I want to be okay being alone. I want to not care what people think.
  • Grow My Lipsense Business 
    • I’m utterly and completely obsessed with LipSense. It’s crazy. I know that I’ve posted about it the last couple of times and you’re probably thinking, “OMG, SHUT UP! WE GET IT!”… But, I promise you don’t get it. I adore LipSense
  • Date. 
    • Ew. Okay but I am like almost 30 and kind of really just want to be in a serious relationship and/or married. The struggle is so real, guys. SO REAL. Here’s the catch though. I don’t do online dating. Meaning, like and stuff.. that’s out of the question. So, that means we have to rely on my awkwardly adorableness to get a date. It’s not working out well so far… Obviously. I guess this means that I have to 1) be more social and 2) let people set me up on blind dates. (EEK!) Will any of this happen? I’m not really sure. But, if I learned anything this last year it’s that I’m a relationship type of girl and I just want to be with someone that is going to treat me the right way. I don’t think that’s too much to ask for. Right? 
  • Take more pictures. 
    • I already take a lot of pictures but I want to take more. That’s always a goal. 



What are your goals this year? 

Death & Heartache

Okay, I sat here and tried to decide if I was going to post this. I wrote this out of heartache and sadness – I haven’t gone through and edited it in any way.. this is just raw emotion that came through when it happened. I’m going to post it because it is a part of my life and it did happen and I was (and am) upset about it. It’s not finished, nor will I finish it. I’m not sure I can finish the post. It’s really interesting me to see this after not looking at it for a week and a half. I cannot tell you what it feels like to a lose a parent, even one that you’re not close with. It’s a lot like feeling alone – because despite the circumstances concerning the relationship, they’re still biologically your parents and when they die, you really have no one else on the planet that can replace them.

July has been a crazy month for me and definitely not in the ways I had expected. I’ll be back with more posts as I’m slowly getting back into the groove of things around here. I have 3 other personal websites that I manage as well as the ones I manage for work. It’s been a balancing act and I think that I’m finally getting the hang of it. Love you guys and see y’all soon!

xoxo, H 



I’m not really sure where to start this post. I’m sad. I cried a lot today. My biological father passed away Thursday night. I was told today. He went into cardiac arrest and they weren’t able to revive him, from what I understand. I’m still waiting on the autopsy to find out for sure what the cause of death was. I apologize if this post is a little all over the place — Well, it will be all over the place — but hopefully it’ll make some sort of sense. At the very least it’ll make me feel better. 

One thing that I can tell you with out a doubt in my mind is that he loved me and my sister. He did. I know this. And when he found out that I had had children, he loved them immensely. I didn’t know him as well as I should have. I couldn’t tell you his favorite food or his favorite color. But what I can tell you is what I remember about him from when I was growing up. 

He gave me my ferret, Puddles. 

One time when we were visiting, he took us out to eat and we were playing the license plate game because we were right next to a window and we talked about how carrots were good for your eyes. 

He always had a mustache. Always. It was weird when he’d shave it off. 

He was a die-hard Raiders fan. 

When I was really little, he’d take us to a relatives house that had a big dog that was big enough that I could ride him. 

And right now I feel so horrible for not returning the phone calls. And not overlooking his faults. And losing touch with him. 


He was an alcoholic. He was sober when we did get back into contact with each other. Then he relapsed and I’m guessing he felt ashamed and felt the need to hide it from me, because he lied to me. I’d always rather have the truth than a lie. And that’s when we lost contact again, except for on Facebook. I was never really close with that side of the family and so they had to find me on facebook and tell me via messenger. That was sad to me, too. 


Then, I learned that they’re donating his body to the medical school and he won’t be buried or have any kind of service done. I can’t handle the thought of him being studied by med students. I don’t feel like I get any closure and that is probably really selfish of me to think that way. I’ve been told that that is what he wanted… so people can learn what long-term alcohol abuse does to your body. That he didn’t want any service, or funeral. I understand respecting someone’s wishes after they’ve died, I do. But, I’m human and I’m selfish and I want him to be buried and have a funeral. 

My Birthday Wishlist



Guys. I’m turning 29 this year — On July 18th. This is going to be the last year of my twenties. That makes me feel… old. I’m also going to make a list of 30 things I want to do before I turn 30. I want a few things for my birthday… mostly just clothing and shoes. 


This rose gold dragon ring… I’m in love. I’m absolutely obsessed with dragons and rose gold. It’s a win-win. 


Because I need like, 12 of these! How cute is little Bulbasaur?? 


Succulent seeds to go into my tiny Bulbasaur!


These heels are to die for – Modcloth is my favorite. 


Seriously, I’m obsessed with heels. How cute are these wedges?

This dress is so so so pretty!

A pretty light green dress, for church.

Because Plaid is always my favorite.

Which is your favorite? 



Watching: Game of Thrones and my guilty pleasure Southern Charm. I can’t help it. I’m hooked. 

Reading: I’m actually not reading much of anything right now. I can’t seem to get into reading lately. I’m in a weird funk. I need to finish Fowl Play by Tony Jaeger. Beacuse it’s quite amazing, actually. Plus, I know the author. 

Listening: Okay. I’m obsessed with the new album Cleopatra by The Lumineers. My favorite songs are Sick in the Head, Ophelia, and Sleep On The Floor. ::heart eyes:: 

Making: Knitting dishcloths, making soap, and getting ready for Farmer’s Markets. 

Feeling:  Um, sick and irritated, actually. It’s really easy for people to push their emotions on me… It must be a design flaw. I’m really intuitive and can read your emotions like you couldn’t believe. Chances are I know how you’re feeling even if you’re acting like nothing is wrong. Which makes it easy for people to project their problems on me. It gets annoying sometimes. 

Planning: Chanel is turning 9, guys. She’s going to be NINE! I can’t even deal with that. She’s going to have a Tie Dye birthday party, how fun is that?? I’m pretty excited about it. 😀 

Loving: Bedtime. It’s my favorite part of the day. Not just because it’s a break but also because it gives me to time to unwind and collect my thoughts for the day and plan out things. 


What are you guys currently doing? Leave your answers below or link me your blog so I can read them! 

Hair Hair Hair

I’m in a constant struggle of what I want to do with my hair. Do I want it long? Yes. Do I want it short? Yes. Do I want it colorful? Yes. Do I want it natural? Yes. Do you see the problem? I want all of the things. So… I sat down and was like, “let’s get serious about this hair situation.” 



I did a thing….

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This is my hair a couple of weeks ago, straightened. Right after I used Ion Color Brilliance on my hair. It washed out after 2 washes. I wouldn’t recommend that product, like at all. Anyway, this gives you an idea of how long my hair is right now. I’ll be posting more pictures of my hair when it’s not straightened, probably on instagram


So, I’m going to grow my hair out. I want long mermaid hair. Why am I telling you this? Because you are going to hold me accountable for my hair growth. Yay! 

But wait, there’s more. 

I want -healthy- hair

I’ve compiled a list of things that I am going to do and products I’m going to use to ensure that. 

  • Kick the sulfates.  I’m not going to use any sulfates in my hair. This isn’t too big of a deal because I’ve already made the switch to no sulfates. I didn’t  even mean to do this one but I did. Mostly because I’m obsessed with the Not Your Mother’s hair products so I gradually made the switch over and didn’t even realize I was cutting out sulfates. 
  • Little to No Heat. Okay, this one is going to be the hardest for me. I have wavy hair. I generally straighten it because if I don’t it ends up being a big poofy mess. But, Alabama is hot and I hate blow drying my hair because you just end up sweating and getting your hair all gross again anyway… So Little to no heat. Preferably no heat. 
  • Deep Condition/Hair Mask. I’m sometimes really good about putting in a hair mask or deep conditioner but I’m more than often not… So i’m going to try and do this at least once a week. I have really dry hair (Thanks, wavy hair… and bleach.) so I’m not worried too much about over conditioning it. 
  • No Color – Easy enough I haven’t really colored my hair in months. I put some pink Ion in a couple weeks ago but it’s already gone and it’s a non-damaging kind of dye (Like Manic Panic) so, this one will be super easy to follow. 
  • Hair Safe Accessories – No elastics, metal, etc. I use the hair ties without the metal connector already and hardly use bobby pins. I put my hair up while I sleep – usually on top of my head. That’s generally the only time my hair is up. Unless it’s super hot and then it goes up in a bun. 
  • Drink More Water/Take Vitamins. I’m so bad at vitamins. I’m horrible at it, actually. I take so many allergy medicines and asthma medicines that I hate the idea of taking another pill. But, I’m going to take my vitamins regularly. I’ve made an alarm on my phone even! I cut out soda a long time ago so I have been drinking a lot of juice and water already but I’m going to actively watch my water intake. 


Things I’m already doing for my hair

  • Boar Bristle Brush – These kinds of brushes naturally condition hair. I don’t brush my hair very often because it’s a combination of curly/wavy and when I do, it becomes a big poof of frizz. But, boar bristle brushes reduce the frizz and can even help cut back on the need for frequent washings. Pretty cool, eh? I love mine.

  • Leave-in Conditioner – This is actually the only product I use in my hair. Crazy, right? I don’t use any curl product or anything, just leave-in conditioner. I can’t stand my hair feeling producty so I am super careful about what I put in my hair. 


    • Washing less often – I was my hair about once every three or so days. I can sometimes push it out more if my hair doesn’t look too bad. It was really easy for my to do this because I don’t have naturally oily hair so my hair doesn’t get that greasy look very often. I have no advice on how to do this, other than plan on having your hair up and investing in some dry shampoo if you have oily hair. 


Do you have any hair tips for me? Let me know below 


Gettin’ Personal

It’s almost 11 PM here. I’m normally asleep like 3 hours ago. 


Me: *lays down to sleep* 

Brain: “You know what would be a great blog post?”

Me: “No. I don’t want to know. I want to sleep. Stop. Shh.” 

Brain: “You can call it ‘Gettin’ Personal’ ….” 

Me: *cries* “No, please let’s not do this right now. Just remember it for tomorrow. Deal??”

Brain: “Okay but, listen…. ” 


Literally what just happened to me. I spend all day not having an idea about blogging and here I am, in bed, glasses off… trying to sleep, with a laptop in my lap typing out this nonsense. 

So, since I was in bed, or rather… am in bed, I was thinking of all the things that you guys search about me on my blog. I figured why not give you those answers in one lovely little post. 

What you’ve searched for:

How tall am I?  I’m actually pretty tall for a girl. I’m 5’6″ and on Sundays I like to wear high heels that make me taller than most guys. I enjoy it. It makes me slightly intimidating… or it would if I didn’t look so sweet. I have resting nice face — I’d kill for resting bitch face. 

Underwear – Like I’ve said previously, some of you are creepers. It’s okay, I understand. But since you’re searching for my panties on my blog, let me tell you that I’m not going to post anything of that nature on my blog. I’ll post about cute pokemon underwear, and probably about my boob job but that’s about all you’re going to get out of me. Actually, this could be a total innocent search and someone is just trying to find the undies that I’ve post about before… Sorry for calling you a creeper. I’m standing by my original assumption though, because panties is one of the more kosher words searched for that fall into the um, genre. 

Boyfriend- This one SLAYS ME. Also, the term “Adrian” which means that it was someone that knows me personally searching for it. Adrian and I broke up a long time ago. It hurt, a lot. I’m better now, thanks for asking. As for a boyfriend – as of right now, technically I don’t have a boyfriend. I’m in a “thing” with someone. Whatever that means. Whenever that’s … facebook official (because it’s not real if you’re not facebook official, right?) I’ll let you know. Or not. I don’t know. Dating is awkward and hard and I’m way better at relationships than awkward dating. And I kind of don’t want to bring up boys on my blog unless it’s like, going somewhere… you know? Does that answer that question? 

Middle Name? My middle name is Dawn. For a long time it bothered me because everyone else in my family has a “lene” middle name – Jolene, Marlene, etc  and I was the only girl with the boring middle name. Now that i’m older I kind of like my name. Heather Dawn. It’s pretty, I suppose. 


That’s the most searched for things – did I miss something? Ask away below! 

What I’ve been up to…


What have I been up to?

Work. Lots of work. I’m not sure if I’ve ever actually talked about work on my blog. I work as a web designer. Did you guys know that?  I’m designing a pretty website for a church. It’s beautiful and I’m pretty pleased with it. I work three days a week for them. I also am doing the Farmer’s Market this year for Cheaha Soaps so every single Thursday, I’m at the Farmer’s Market… Selling soaps. 

When I’m not working, I’m wrangling my children and the new younglings. It’s officially summer break around here. So we’re desperately waiting for the pool to open so we can live there for the rest of the summer. Seriously. Maybe this year I’ll even get a tan! Hahaha jk. I don’t tan. I sunburn. 🙂 So far we’ve been to a snake show and gotten to hold an alligator. 

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How fun is that? Slightly terrifying, but fun! I’ve never been to a snake show where you get to hold an alligator. 



We also had graduations – Preschool and Kindergarten. 




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So so sweet. They were so excited to have their little programs. 


I’m actually really glad that it’s summer break, I’m sick of waking up at 5 every single morning. You feel me?  That’s all I’ve been up to, really. 

Just working and kids. That’s my life now. 😛 


What have you been up to?

Our Family Is Growing!

Remember back in August when I said, “I have something exciting happening” but I couldn’t tell you what it was? And a ton of you messaged me and asked if I was pregnant? 


I can finally tell you something. Something I’ve been waiting since August to tell you guys! Our family is growing! But no, I’m not preggers. My parents have been going through the extremely long and torturous process of adopting kids. They’re family members that were put into the foster care system and were then going to be adopted outside of the family. Well, my parents stepped in and said that they’d adopt them to keep them in the family. First can we talk about how amazing that is? I’m 28 years old and have been the baby of the family for 28 years. My parents had a short talk about it and there was no question that they were going to take this on. It started out as just one child and then it turned in to both of his siblings. So, at my parents age, they’ve decided to essentially start over and raise THREE more children. It takes a special person to do something like that. I haven’t brought it up because there are just so many things that could have gone wrong and we endured a lot of heartbreak during the process. We were told on three separate occasions that they were going to be coming out  and then something would happen and it’d get delayed. But, today is the real day. Their plane landed 20 minutes ago and they’re currently on their way to our house to stay! 

Let me tell you a little about the kids – 

Faith – she’s the oldest. She’s 13 and wants to be a cheerleader (YAY!) – her favorite colors are lime green and turquoise. 

Savannah – she’s 6 and is super smart. She loves Frozen and wants to have long pretty hair like Queen Elsa. 

Kody – He’s 5 and LOVES sports. 


I’m sure I’ll have lots more to tell you as time goes on. I just couldn’t handle not taking a quick minute and sharing this exciting news with you! I’ve been dying to tell you guys for MONTHS. You’ll understand if I’m not around for a bit. I’ll be spending time with some extended family that has brought them into town. I couldn’t be more excited, you guys. They’re HERE! It’s been such a process and it almost seems surreal that they’re actually, physically here in Alabama. 


Questions, Comments, etc, post them below and I’ll try and get anything addressed that you want to know in the next post about it! 


GUYS I’M A BIG SISTER (kind of. Depending on how the paperwork goes through. But basically, I’m a big sister.) 


Things I {don’t} Love Thursday


The Nerdy Fox

Welcome to Things I Love Thursday (TILT) – a weekly roundup of things I’ve found on the internet that I love! Be sure to stop over at Kimi Who and read her post. She’s pretty much the coolest chick and my blog BFF! Just a few reminders – you can write your post on any day, it doesn’t have to be Thursday! We love looking through everyone’s posts and seeing what we’ve missed this week on the internet. Use the hashtag #TILT and tag us (@WhoisKimi and @TheNerdyFoxBlog on Twitter. @KimiWho and @TheNerdyFoxBlog on Instagram)  Make sure you get that button on your post and link up with us! Tag me (@thenerdyfoxblog) in your TILT tweet and I’ll retweet you! (Or share it on Facebook if you tag me!)


I had these amazing plans for my blog this week and let me tell you, it’s all gone to shit. Do you ever have one of those weeks that you’re just not feelin’ it? I’m having one of those years, it seems. We’ve been nothing but sick,all year. We’ve dealt with sickness after sickness.. and drama after drama… and i’m. so. over. it. ooooooooooooover it. 


So, Things I DON’T love Thursday. 


1. Ringworm, Stomach bugs, Coughs, Sniffles, Colds, and other bad germies. 

Let’s first talk about how ringworm is a common thing. I’ve never had to deal with it until now. It’s been HELL to get rid of. We have a bad case of the stomach bug going around (so far, only I’ve gotten it. Yayyyy me…) and Chanel is STILL coughing and has been for a month. I’ve taken her in to the doctor and they’ve just put her on 2 allergy medicines (seriously, guys, she’s taking after me a little too much.) I’m pretty much just over sickness. I’m done with it. 


2. Dramatic Friendships.

You guys remember when I mentioned my friend that like dropped off the face of the planet? Well, that came up in my life again today…. With a buttload more drama. I’m fine with not wanting to be friends with someone, what I’m not fine with is dropping off the face of the planet and leaving someone else to clean up your mess. Seriously. You’re older than I am, own up to your crap. I shouldn’t have to be getting phone calls asking if I know where you are because you apparently owe people money or you *gasp* stopped talking to someone. Ugh. Also, clearly if our friendship isn’t worth the time it takes to call me up and say, “Hey, I’m going to move to a different state. Let’s hang out before I go!” then, I’m obviously better off. BUT DO YOU EVEN UNDERSTAND HOW UPSETTING THAT IS? I went from being a best friend to nothing. Who does that? 


3. Having to overly explain myself. 

Is this just me? Do you hate having to explain something, and explain something, and explain something until you want to scream? That’s what my life has been like that last week. 


4. Unanswered Questions and Stress 

The worst part about this one is I can’t fully explain it yet. I swearrrrrrr I will. I promise. I have things to tell you guys. It’ll be this month. But, i have to wait for something to be resolved before I can announce anything. (Again, no, I’m not pregnant. Don’t ask. I can’t have more babies. We all should know this by now.) But, I’m over the stress of it all, I really am. I need some mellow vibes in my life, that’s for dang sure. 


There you have it. My things I don’t love this week. I hope you’re having a better week than I am! Let me know by linking up below and leave me some comment love! 


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